Quiet friendships

The best way to make sure you do less of something is to make a simple new year resolution about doing more of it. My well-intentioned resolution was to blog more often. Enough said. It has taken me almost two months to haul myself back over here.

Its been a good start to the year. Touch wood. An interesting move up at work. Kids back to school and the daily rush. Hubby enjoying his travels in and out of small towns dotting the countryside. And as I sit back and relax, there has been quiet change in the way my six-year-old K and twenty month old V interact with each other. Amidst all the shouting, jostling, pulling and pushing, there are these lovely moments of friendship. Sharing a chocolate earned after a hard day of good behavior. Running around the furniture and playing catch with little V loving to pretend she’s a puppy with a mean bite. Sitting cross-legged on the floor and syncing hand movements to rhythmic songs. Leaning back in the big lazy chair, snuggled together and giggling over their favourite cartoon shows. Flipping pages of a big picture book – K thrilled that she can read the words and V excited by the pictures she can identify and sounds she can mimic.

One day I overhear this conversation.

‘V, can you give me back my crayons?’, pleads big sister K.


‘V, do you want a new Barbie?’


‘Then give me my crayons and I’ll get you a new Barbie.’

‘Yesh.’ And there’s a polite return of crayons.

The very next day there is a repeat performance. But…

‘V, give me my notebook back and I’ll give you a new Barbie.’

‘No! No Barbie.’

Wiser already. 🙂


Second mover’s advantage

Last weekend we celebrated V’s first birthday. Amidst all the voices around me saying “one already?”, “time flies, they grow up so fast”, etc etc… I couldn’t help but notice the subtle differences to when K was one.

I remember K at one was just about walking with the support of furniture. She wasnt overly keen to be mobile and we carried her more often than not. V on the other hand is already running! Hence she’s already falling a lot more and banging into things a lot more!

V was at ease with so many friends and family at home. She seemed to sense that its her day and she made it her business to enjoy it! And I loved the smile on her face as I put a small gold chain with a Ganesha pendant around her neck. She loved it and it made her feel special.

Just a few years apart and they already seem to belong to two different generations! V has a constant companion in K – someone to play with, look up to, copy and someone who inspires and cheers her on to newer milestones.

She can walk, so can I
She can run, so can I
She can climb, so can I
She can eat by herself, so can I

Slow down little one. Let me savour every moment. We watched our first baby grow into a beautiful young lady. We want to hold you in this moment forever…..